Making Predictions

Where Does the Night Lead, 

and

Will he Call Me in the Morning?

Ambiguity of meaning, absence of commitment; they (whoever they are) say both are rampant in today's society of young 20s somethings living the single life. I can't speak for my entire generation, but I've got to say a lifestyle with both of these characteristics certainly flourishes in Vail.

But...perhaps we aren't as bad as our cross Atlantic counterparts.

My friend Andy recently told me, “You know, in Europe, when you kiss someone when you're out at night, you're having sex.”

Ah

“So that's why I pissed off so many guys on my Eurotrip...”

Call me a prude, but I've made out with far more dudes than I've brought home to bed. A make-out session in Vail means nothing. Right?

I decided to poll a few Vail girlies to address the question:  

Just what DOES dictate how the night is going to end?

First question: If you kiss someone, does it mean they're invited home with you?

A: Absolutely not.

“It means I like your face and I want to lick it.”

-Anonymous answer (from Beth)

I also wanted to know, “What about if a guy buys you a drink? Do you owe him anything.”

After some serious consideration, the answer was almost always the same, “Well, maybe some conversation. You know, to be polite.”

So, “You aren't more or less likely to go home with a guy if he buys you a drink.”

Apparently, if a guy does buy a girl a drink, it's no guarantee of sexual gratification, however, if he doesn't buy her a drink, it doesn't appear that he “takes her seriously.”

Well, that's fitting somehow, because if a girl does take a guy home, to make-out or more, there's no guarantee of a phone call.

I suspect that's true in Europe as well.

My friend Lee has this to say on the matter, “I never really go on dates, but every now and then the guy I go home with happens to buy me dinner.”

So in conclusion, predictions on how the night will end cannot be made on kisses given, nor drinks bought.

“Sex and things like sex—things people pretend they regret—weren't about a decision made in a heated moment. The decision is made when you leave the house, when you get on a plane, when you dial a number.”

-Dave Eggers How We Are Hungry

Guys, that about sums up the odds.